A letter to my 20 year old self

Dear Self,

As your much older and wiser self, I am writing you to fill you in on a few things you don't know..

1. Love will find you. You may not think it will ever happen for you, but you are very wrong. If you would only wait and stop chasing after all those boys who are either not interested in you, or not interested in you for the right reasons you would find you have a lot more time on your hands. Trust me, this guy is worth the wait.


2. Life will not turn out like you think. Those things that you think are important to you now, you won't even remember in a few years. And things that you would have never dreamed of happening will happen. And the funny thing is, you will wonder how you ever lived before that happened.

3. Be flexible. Life is full of ups and downs, the quicker you can learn to roll with the punches and accept the bad with the good, the quicker you will get back up and try again. Don't ever stop getting back up again.

5. Invest in yourself. Take the time to do the things that you really enjoy and build yourself and your knowledge. It's amazing how quickly time goes when your looking at it backwards. That is when you realize if you would have done just a little bit of writing everyday like you always meant to, you would be on your 2nd bestselling novel right now. Instead you watched tv.

6. Enjoy your freedom. At the moment you have spending money and no debt and no mortgage and not much responsibility. Go traveling for a year, or apply for a job in New York, or work on a cruise ship. There is really no end to your possibilities, and you have the rest of your life to be responsible and settle down.

7. Don't be afraid. There are a lot of things you were too scared to do,  but as you get older you will look back and wonder "what if I would have tried". And that is much much scarier than falling flat on your face a few times.

8. You can't do everything. You know, mom and dad always said you can do anything you set your mind to. That's a lie, a well meaning one, but still a lie. You will never be president, or a famous movie star, or the inventor of the next apple mega company. Accept your limitations, and work to your strengths.

9. It gets better. More complicated and definitely harder, yes, but still better. As you get more comfortable in your own skin and learn who you really are, you realize that you don't have to compare yourself to others because you are truly one of a kind and have great things about you that have nothing to do with your dress size or your collection of stuff or the size of your bank account.

10. Invest in Apple, not in BP, and whatever you do, don't join the army to pay for your University, because you might end up going places you never wanted to go. Hot dusty places.

Love your very much older and wiser 28 year old Self